Yes, this isn’t really about me as a father to my brothers, but it’s a pondering into what the Father should desire for His daughter.
I think of what I need for my three daughters; for them not to be responsible adults and loving and respectful partners, but to be respected and safe and loved and cherished by the men in their lives; by all men in society – and all women.
As a man I very well know how men think and the way they feel and the challenges that a person faces only in treating women with the respect they deserve; that all humanity deserves. I know as a pastor, a counsellor, and as a chaplain just how much I have fallen short in my thoughts and feelings and actions, as a guy I mean.
I rationalised that, in endeavouring to live a godly life, I still struggle to reach to the standards of thought, feeling, and action that I’d love to meet. I am quite fortunate that the women near me have been gracious in understanding that although my intent reveals possible, my deployment is occasionally awry.
In recent days I’ve seen attacks on feminism as if every man who speaks up for females in society has dropped for some trick. These people against’feminism’ are deluded. Naturally, violence against anyone is unacceptable, and girls aren’t immune from being violent, but guys own the stake in how to proceed if the world has any hope beyond violence.
I find it a ridiculous argument that men denounce women’s rights to safety when they use an aggression cloaked in all sorts of vile apparatus, including inappropriate humour that’s supposed to be amusing but is just disgusting. And feeble women join in. Some people are beyond loving anyone.
What must the Father want for His daughter?
Surely, he wants His daughter to be treated like she’s a princess. Because she’s a princess.
Does a man lose anything for treating a woman like a princess?
Where’s the chivalry gone that says,’I choose to treat you as beautiful for who you are.’
Every dad worthy of being called a father should want goodness and favour for his daughter. And that’s just the earthly father. Needless to say, we can ask what the Father desires for his son, and the Father must want his son to flourish as the protector of life, and to revere the Father’s glory in the girls about him.
To be properly egalitarian, I think it’s crucial we get the gender differences right.
They follow their men, always desiring their men to lead by means of respect and protection. I know few women who would be capable of abusing men for the want of it. Sure, I’ve seen women who are capable of abusing men, and I wonder what role men have played in the creation of the women in question. Men are not blameless.
The Father desires the best for His daughter.
The Father wants His daughter to be secure. The Father demands that His daughter be adored by being respected. The Father wishes no fear against His daughter. The Father seeks that His daughter could flourish. The Father is a gentle nurturer. And the Father promises to travel with His daughter.
And if we care anything about God we ought to do His will.